Excuses. We all have made them and I am not immune. For me, a lot of time I make excuses for not doing something simply because I have fears about it. Most of the time I am unaware of these fears because my brain just goes on automatic to flip out excuses as fast as it can. These excuses have a way of limiting my life and keeping me in a little bubble, unaware of the joys that could have come my way. I hear a lot of women tell me that they have completely ruled out certain garment types for one reason or another. And I do not blame them because I have been there. Today I have a fun printed pants outfit with a vest that would have been a big no-no for me a few years ago, but yet now this is a look I wear with extreme confidence.
Fall and winter are what I call pseudo-fall and pseudo-winter here in Southern California. I can dream of super cool weather that I used to thoroughly enjoy when I lived in Kansas for eleven years, but it still is not going to happen any time soon. So when I create a fall look for myself, I am using the term loosely.
There used to be two garment types that were on my “never wear” list and those were printed pants and soft pants. I remember one of my very first blog posts when I first tried soft pants. What I find very interesting is that they were on that list without me ever stepping into either type. Now I look at these pictures and remember how I felt that day and wonder what in the world made me hold back all these years! Those fears were so unwarranted.
Oh ya, I remember booties being on that list as well. I heard from somewhere that they cut the leg line off. One thing I have learned since then is that the appearance of longer, leaner legs does not make for a confidence building outfit. It is rather my love for these ankle height beauties that make me feel like a queen as I boldly strut around in them.
Vests themselves were also on the “don’t try that sucker on” list as well. While I do not like all vests, I now have quite a few of them in my closet that I adore, including this one. The way I look at it is that not all garments of the same type (such as vests) are created equal. Just because I try one on and it does not fit good, does not mean that another one might look fantastic. It’s like me going to Olive Garden a few times, not liking the lasagna, and then refusing to try your homemade lasagna made from a recipe past down from your great great grandma. Ok, maybe I’m being dramatic.
I would encourage you to examine why you make excuses about certain types of clothing. Why do you hate wearing pants? Why do you refuse to put on a skirt or dress? Why are you opposed to putting on a bright color? Why is that neckline the bane of your existence? Instead of instantly letting your brain put on the breaks like it always does (it’s natural), allow yourself to really ask yourself why.
I am not challenging you alone, I am challenging myself. I recently took a taste of my own medicine and tried on a turtleneck. This is one neckline that I have tried before and have hated. I could not rip a turtleneck faster off my body. Yet this time, I stopped, I took a picture of myself in the mirror. I then looked at it from a different perspective. Wow! It really looked good and I did not feel like I was choking. Now I can’t wait to style it and show a brand new look to my clothing repertoire. After all, I do not want to look like a repeat of what I have always done, over and over and over again. No more style rut for me.
- Faux Fur Vest: Francesca’s
- Top: Chico’s
- Hei Hei Lourinha Joggers: Anthropologie
- Peep Toe Booties: Old Navy
- Crescent Necklace: Forever 21
- Fringe Handbag: Charming Charlie
Since all of these are older styles that are no longer available, I found some current similar vests and pants for you to shop.
Are you in a style rut? What garment type is on your “no list” and more importantly, WHY?
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Today’s Postivity Note
You have to believe in yourself when no one else does. -Venus Williams