Je T’aime

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As you look at the mirror at yourself, what do you see?  There are so many things to observe.  Our hair color, complexion, eyes, shape, and size are the physical characteristics, but beyond that we can see even further.  Our roles in life play a big part of what we see, for me I see a wife, a sister, a friend.  Then we have our personality and emotions that are there too.  For a long time, I would look back in the mirror and not always liked what I saw, both in a physical and emotional sense.

If I could just lose ten more pounds I could be happy.
If I could have a tan I could be happy.
If I could have more money to dress the way I want to dress I could be happy.
If I could make this list of people happy, then I could be happy.

Before I knew it, I had a huge mental list of things that had to happen before I could be happy with myself.  It was at a pivotal moment in my life when I let go of most of my worldly goods due to a moving and financial issues that I prayed for help.  As I packed up the last of my clothes in a large bin it struck me.

What was I waiting for?
Why was I wasting so much time being unhappy?
What if I just let all those stipulations I had placed upon myself go, just like I had all my possessions?

A flood of warmth swept over me and I knew Christ had helped deliver me to a new chapter in my life.  I knew that he loved me, but for some reason I did not love myself.  It was time for a change and that meant saying I love you to myself.

While I typically do not get this deep on my little fashion blog here, it has been a topic that keeps coming up.  When I read comments on other people’s blogs, Instagram posts, Facebook posts, and YouTube videos I find that there are so many young girls, as well as women who do not find love for themselves.  It pains me to know that there are ladies out there that never want to have their picture taken because of some physical attribute they do not want to have documented.

Je T'aime | Designing From My Closet | Plus & Inbetweenie Fashion Blog

When I saw this fun shirt on Poshmark with Je T’aime written across the front, it struck me.  The French words for I love you along with a little painted gold heart was a physical representation of how I wanted to express and show that I indeed love myself.  This by no means that I do not have hang ups about parts of my body that make me uncomfortable, or that I do not have some characteristics that I feel are undesirable.  It truly means that I love myself for who I am right now.  I am striving to be a better person and always will, but in the mean time, I am happy with who I am in the moment.

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Today I want to encourage all of you ladies, my readers to love yourself.  Being hard on yourself for not being perfect is something I think a lot of women do.  Embrace those imperfections.  Let go of those idealistic images you have in your mind and enjoy the beauty that is uniquely you.  There is only one you and that is a fabulous thing.  Your happiness is not something that needs to be out of reach, waiting for something you want to happen.  Strive for your goals and be thankful for what you have today and who you are today.  You are so worthy of love and I have found that self love is so much more rewarding than you first realize.  Being at peace with yourself, flaws and all transcends into a confidence you never thought you would have.

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I know that I said pretty much zilch about this outfit and you know what, I am ok with that.  I am alright with this blog being something different every once in a while.  I am happy that I am in this time of growth, this journey that builds my strength and character.  I am beyond privileged that I get to have a platform like this to meet all of you.  This is me, alive and well.  And Je T’aime to all of you lovely, lovely ladies!

Je T'aime | Designing From My Closet | Plus & Inbetweenie Fashion Blog

Outfit Details

  • Je T’aime Stripe Tee: Forever 21 via Poshmark
  • Flare Jeans: Catherines
  • Hat: Charming Charlie
  • Rope & Metal Necklace: Anthropologie via Poshmark
  • Chunky Chain Bracelet: Charming Charlie
  • Zippered Satchel: Forever 21 via Poshmark
  • Mossimo Caged Sandals: Goodwill

Remix FeatureJe T'aime | Designing From My Closet | Plus & Inbetweenie Fashion BlogHat  |  Flare Jeans  |  Necklace

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Today’s Postivity Note

Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.

 Be Blessed!

Janeane

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8 comments

  1. So in love with your style! I’ve been following plus size fashion bloggers for years but although it has been an inspiration, there has always been some sense of “unreachability” if I might say… Not quite my true style, too tight and short and revealing… But in you I have found a pearl! I love the versatility of your outfits, your remix options, with the perfect hint of modesty.

    Blessings from Belgium!

    Emy

    1. A huge heart felt ‘thank you’ to you Emy for your beautiful comment. I so appreciate you taking the time to write. Fashion and style are one of my passions, so I am so happy to be able to share it for inspiration.

      All the best,
      Janeane

  2. Thank you, Janeane for a lovely and thoughtful post. Your message was inspiring and something I needed to hear today. I don’t know why this lesson is so difficult for some of us. Take care, Amie

  3. I love when people promote this message. I have friends that still go on and on about how they can be happy with themselves once they lose 10 more pounds or once they get down to the weight they were in high school or once they can fit into their wedding dress again or once they feel they no longer have a big butt. Most of these people are also pretty thin, or at least average in weight. My own mother only thought she was a valuable and whole person when she had a man to love her. I get so mad at them and tell them, “Look, even if you achieve one of those things, you are still going to hate yourself, or something about yourself, and use it as an excuse not to be happy or not to live your life.” They don’t listen to me because I am fat, so what do I know.

    You know how I learned this lesson? I got cancer. I thought I was going to die. And I spent my whole life thinking I had to look a certain way to enjoy myself or love myself or be happy? Sorry for my language, but fuck that! I was ashamed of myself for waiting so long to really start living. And only when I was confronted with something that made me think I had less time than I thought was I able to really ‘get it’. The thing is, I don’t want every one of my friends to have to face a life-threatening diagnosis in order for them to see the value in themselves, their lives, and that none of those things has anything to do with their weight or the measurement of their ass.

    1. I loved this comment Hailey! You have such a powerful story and are so passionate about sharing it. I can’t even imagine how scary it is to stare cancer in the face. I am so happy I have met you and that you have taken this opportunity to spread the self love message through your blog. As you so well know, life is so short and can be taken away in the blink of an eye, so I am glad we are living our lives for all they are worth! Love ya!

  4. Janeane, you are such a lovely person, inside and out. I love your openness and honesty. And you are so right. So many of us struggle with loving ourselves as God made us. We often fall prey to lies that say we are not enough, when in reality Christ saw that we were enough and loved us enough to die for us. I love this outfit on you because it makes the statement that you are confident in who you are and it shows. Thanks for the encouragement. – Amy
    http://www.stylingrannymama.com

    1. This blog has been instrumental in me become more open and even more honest with myself. I love how you put this “Christ saw that we were enough”. You are so right. Thank you always for your wonderful comment.

      Janeane

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