As you look at the mirror at yourself, what do you see? There are so many things to observe. Our hair color, complexion, eyes, shape, and size are the physical characteristics, but beyond that we can see even further. Our roles in life play a big part of what we see, for me I see a wife, a sister, a friend. Then we have our personality and emotions that are there too. For a long time, I would look back in the mirror and not always liked what I saw, both in a physical and emotional sense.
If I could just lose ten more pounds I could be happy.
If I could have a tan I could be happy.
If I could have more money to dress the way I want to dress I could be happy.
If I could make this list of people happy, then I could be happy.
Before I knew it, I had a huge mental list of things that had to happen before I could be happy with myself. It was at a pivotal moment in my life when I let go of most of my worldly goods due to a moving and financial issues that I prayed for help. As I packed up the last of my clothes in a large bin it struck me.
What was I waiting for?
Why was I wasting so much time being unhappy?
What if I just let all those stipulations I had placed upon myself go, just like I had all my possessions?
A flood of warmth swept over me and I knew Christ had helped deliver me to a new chapter in my life. I knew that he loved me, but for some reason I did not love myself. It was time for a change and that meant saying I love you to myself.
While I typically do not get this deep on my little fashion blog here, it has been a topic that keeps coming up. When I read comments on other people’s blogs, Instagram posts, Facebook posts, and YouTube videos I find that there are so many young girls, as well as women who do not find love for themselves. It pains me to know that there are ladies out there that never want to have their picture taken because of some physical attribute they do not want to have documented.
When I saw this fun shirt on Poshmark with Je T’aime written across the front, it struck me. The French words for I love you along with a little painted gold heart was a physical representation of how I wanted to express and show that I indeed love myself. This by no means that I do not have hang ups about parts of my body that make me uncomfortable, or that I do not have some characteristics that I feel are undesirable. It truly means that I love myself for who I am right now. I am striving to be a better person and always will, but in the mean time, I am happy with who I am in the moment.
Today I want to encourage all of you ladies, my readers to love yourself. Being hard on yourself for not being perfect is something I think a lot of women do. Embrace those imperfections. Let go of those idealistic images you have in your mind and enjoy the beauty that is uniquely you. There is only one you and that is a fabulous thing. Your happiness is not something that needs to be out of reach, waiting for something you want to happen. Strive for your goals and be thankful for what you have today and who you are today. You are so worthy of love and I have found that self love is so much more rewarding than you first realize. Being at peace with yourself, flaws and all transcends into a confidence you never thought you would have.
I know that I said pretty much zilch about this outfit and you know what, I am ok with that. I am alright with this blog being something different every once in a while. I am happy that I am in this time of growth, this journey that builds my strength and character. I am beyond privileged that I get to have a platform like this to meet all of you. This is me, alive and well. And Je T’aime to all of you lovely, lovely ladies!
- Je T’aime Stripe Tee: Forever 21 via Poshmark
- Flare Jeans: Catherines
- Hat: Charming Charlie
- Rope & Metal Necklace: Anthropologie via Poshmark
- Chunky Chain Bracelet: Charming Charlie
- Zippered Satchel: Forever 21 via Poshmark
- Mossimo Caged Sandals: Goodwill
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Today’s Postivity Note
Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.