I have to tell you, I am a sensitive person. My heart is worn on my sleeve and as much as I would love to say I have developed a thick skin, it is not the case. A series of upsetting things, small things, related to the blog has simultaneously happened during a time in my life when I am feeling not so confident. All at the same time, I have also received messages and pictures of outfits you have put together from some of you that have touched my heart. Ladies, you know who you are and you are the reason I do what I do. I am a person too and rely on encouragement from outside parties from time to time. I have been praying diligently about these negative comments and mistakes I have made that have taken place. Placing my faith in Christ to handle these feelings bubbling up inside of me has been a comfort to me. This blog is meant to be a happy and positive place for all, including myself.
Facing fears is a big deal to me when it comes to life as well as fashion. Aging and the effects that go along with it both physically and emotionally have been a surprising issue I did not think would come up with me. I am not ashamed that I am now 41, I am just recognizing that changes are happening.
With these changes I am wanting to do something positive. I want to make an impact in my own way. I want to steer away from comparing myself to other bloggers and do my own thing. I am brainstorming on some ideas that I hope you will enjoy. These would be additions to the way Designing From My Closet is right now. I will be sharing these ideas with you as they come together.
Change, confrontation, fears, issues, illness, loss, making mistakes… they can all lead to having low confidence. I don’t know about you, but I believe all women face these situations in one form or another. It is easy to get caught up within these and let it effect how you see yourself. After a reflective time, I am wanting to redefine my confidence. I am still shaky, but I am not letting that stop me. Taking control of what I can is one thing that gives me power. Within that I am letting go to God what is out of my control and dedicating what I do to him.
I used to mask my feelings and put on a happy face no matter what. No one ever knew what was going on in my head. Rather than viewing my low confidence as a bad thing, I am acknowledging it, accepting it for what it is, and knowing I will move past this time as a better person. It’s ok not to be up all the time. Feeling guilt over feeling low is counterproductive so I am embracing these feelings to move through them.
Having fashion has always been a safe place for me to land. Dressing in what makes me happy in turn makes me feel confident. Today’s outfit is no different. It transforms my mood in a positive way.
The top, skirt, and necklace are all items I got off of Poshmark while the fringed vest, ring, bangle, clutch, and booties are from my closet and have been featured before on the blog. Each singular item is something I am excited about. Put together, they create a look that is uniquely mine.
Jewelry is a big part of all of my outfits, so this green and blue necklace plays into that. Matching colors is one notion I have let go of as the green in the necklace does not quite match the olive top. I love the tension it creates.
Having this patterned purse has been a great experience. I really did not realize how much it would be used. Because the colors are tones I am drawn to, I have found multiple pieces that go with it. In this case, it picks up the pink and green beautifully. This one comes with an attached long cross body strap that I use sometimes, but most of the time, I tuck it inside and just carry it like a little gift.
And these sueded peep-toe booties that I got last fall are back in stock!
So how am I redefining my confidence? Picking myself up and pressing the refresh button. Getting dressed and getting ready is the first step. It is prepping me for a creative mindset. New and fresh ideas that have been waiting to come out are ready to be formed. By pursuing things I have always wanted to do. Some may say that I have changed as a person as if it is a bad thing, especially ones that want to keep me in their box, to keep me thinking the way they want me to think. And I have changed, I have grown. This positive direction is empowering, which in turn is impacting my confidence in a great way.
I sure hope that you are along for the ride and ready to take this positive, confidence building experience with me. You deserve it!
- Olive Shirt: Old Navy via Poshmark
- Fringed Vest: Target
- Fuchsia Chiffon Pleated Skirt: LOFT via Poshmark
- Equatorial Fringed Bib Necklace: Anthropologie via Poshmark (see listings for this necklace on Poshmark)
- Del Mar Clutch: AllyOops Boutique
- Etched Bangle: World Market via Poshmark
- Wood and Resin Statement Ring: Vintage via Estate Sale
- Sueded Ankle Peep-Toe Booties: Old Navy
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Do you dress a certain way to make yourself feel confident and positive?
Today’s Postivity Note
Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful of your life. -Mark Twain