Redefining My Confidence

Redefining My Confidence | Fringed Vest with Olive Top and Fuchsia Chiffon Pleated Skirt | Designing From My Closet | Plus & Inbetweenie Fashion Blog

I have to tell you, I am a sensitive person.  My heart is worn on my sleeve and as much as I would love to say I have developed a thick skin, it is not the case.  A series of upsetting things, small things, related to the blog has simultaneously happened during a time in my life when I am feeling not so confident.  All at the same time, I have also received messages and pictures of outfits you have put together from some of you that have touched my heart.  Ladies, you know who you are and you are the reason I do what I do.  I am a person too and rely on encouragement from outside parties from time to time.  I have been praying diligently about these negative comments and mistakes I have made that have taken place.  Placing my faith in Christ to handle these feelings bubbling up inside of me has been a comfort to me.  This blog is meant to be a happy and positive place for all, including myself.

Facing fears is a big deal to me when it comes to life as well as fashion.  Aging and the effects that go along with it both physically and emotionally have been a surprising issue I did not think would come up with me.  I am not ashamed that I am now 41, I am just recognizing that changes are happening.

With these changes I am wanting to do something positive.  I want to make an impact in my own way.  I want to steer away from comparing myself to other bloggers and do my own thing.  I am brainstorming on some ideas that I hope you will enjoy.  These would be additions to the way Designing From My Closet is right now.  I will be sharing these ideas with you as they come together.

Change, confrontation, fears, issues, illness, loss, making mistakes… they can all lead to having low confidence.  I don’t know about you, but I believe all women face these situations in one form or another.  It is easy to get caught up within these and let it effect how you see yourself.  After a reflective time, I am wanting to redefine my confidence.  I am still shaky, but I am not letting that stop me.  Taking control of what I can is one thing that gives me power.  Within that I am letting go to God what is out of my control and dedicating what I do to him.

I used to mask my feelings and put on a happy face no matter what.  No one ever knew what was going on in my head.  Rather than viewing my low confidence as a bad thing, I am acknowledging it, accepting it for what it is, and knowing I will move past this time as a better person.  It’s ok not to be up all the time.  Feeling guilt over feeling low is counterproductive so I am embracing these feelings to move through them.

Having fashion has always been a safe place for me to land.  Dressing in what makes me happy in turn makes me feel confident.  Today’s outfit is no different.  It transforms my mood in a positive way.

Redefining My Confidence | Fringed Vest with Olive Top and Fuchsia Chiffon Pleated Skirt | Designing From My Closet | Plus & Inbetweenie Fashion Blog

The top, skirt, and necklace are all items I got off of Poshmark while the fringed vest, ring, bangle, clutch, and booties are from my closet and have been featured before on the blog.  Each singular item is something I am excited about.  Put together, they create a look that is uniquely mine.

Redefining My Confidence | Fringed Vest with Olive Top and Fuchsia Chiffon Pleated Skirt | Designing From My Closet | Plus & Inbetweenie Fashion Blog

Jewelry is a big part of all of my outfits, so this green and blue necklace plays into that.  Matching colors is one notion I have let go of as the green in the necklace does not quite match the olive top.  I love the tension it creates.

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Having this patterned purse has been a great experience.  I really did not realize how much it would be used.  Because the colors are tones I am drawn to, I have found multiple pieces that go with it.  In this case, it picks up the pink and green beautifully.  This one comes with an attached long cross body strap that I use sometimes, but most of the time, I tuck it inside and just carry it like a little gift.

And these sueded peep-toe booties that I got last fall are back in stock!

Redefining My Confidence | Fringed Vest with Olive Top and Fuchsia Chiffon Pleated Skirt | Designing From My Closet | Plus & Inbetweenie Fashion BlogRedefining My Confidence | Fringed Vest with Olive Top and Fuchsia Chiffon Pleated Skirt | Designing From My Closet | Plus & Inbetweenie Fashion Blog

So how am I redefining my confidence?  Picking myself up and pressing the refresh button.  Getting dressed and getting ready is the first step.  It is prepping me for a creative mindset.  New and fresh ideas that have been waiting to come out are ready to be formed.  By pursuing things I have always wanted to do.  Some may say that I have changed as a person as if it is a bad thing, especially ones that want to keep me in their box, to keep me thinking the way they want me to think.  And I have changed, I have grown.  This positive direction is empowering, which in turn is impacting my confidence in a great way.

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I sure hope that you are along for the ride and ready to take this positive, confidence building experience with me.  You deserve it!

Outfit Details

SHOP THE LOOK

Shop The LookDolman Sleeve Olive Top  |  Pleated Chiffon Maxi Skirt  |  Crochet Fringe Sweater

Remix FeatureRemix Feature_ Fringed Vest with Chiffon Pleated SkirtFringed Vest  |  Clutch  |  Booties

Do you dress a certain way to make yourself feel confident and positive?

Today’s Postivity Note

Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful of your life. -Mark Twain

 Be Blessed!

Janeane

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13 comments

  1. Don’t let the trolls get you down. Your daily post is a great inspiration to many of us. It’s not just about the fashion, but also about your optimism and cheerful outlook.

    1. Thank you Cosette! I usually do not let comments get to me, I think with the combo of having other things going on in my life, it just got to me. I am so glad that I am taking all of this and turning it into something positive. Thank you again for your encouraging words!

      Janeane

  2. First of just ordered the booties… Thanks for the heads up on them being back in stock. 2nd you have a great blog with great style. Ignore the internet trolls they are the losers no one wants to play with in real life so they hide behind their computer screens ( read: under their bridges) watching over people live actual lives they wish they had…but sadly they have such offensive personalities no one wants to be around them. Leave them to their bridges… Live your life, and rock on!

    1. Ah, those booties are my fav! I am thankful I have such wonderful friends and readers who are here to boost me up. Haha! I love your descriptors here. I need to keep that visual in mind. And yes, I am so ready to rock on and am already there!

      Thanks!

      Janeane

  3. I totally know what you mean!!
    Every time there’s an unsubscribe to my blog’s emails I’m a little depressed, and my husband tells me to get over it.
    And he’s right—we have to remember we can’t be the end all for everyone and as long as you’re doing something good for you—that’s what counts!!
    I love your blog —I even gave you a shout out on Monday (http://bit.ly/1NoghoN)! jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    1. I think we put something together and put our heart and soul into it in hopes that it will fall into the hands of ladies who are seeking that particular information. It sounds like your hubby is the same as mine. I really appreciate your words and for all the sharing. And I am still playing catch up on reading all my fav blogs (including yours) from being on vacation, so I will need to put your Monday post at the front of the list to read! Thanks for the shout out!!!

      Janeane

  4. Janeane, I can’t tell you what an inspiration you have been to me as a new blogger. Your beautiful eyes and smile, your artistic flair that translates from your love of interior design to your love of fashion and all the creative ways you pull outfits together help me to be more confident as a blogger. Thank you for being so honest in your post today and for being real! So often I feel like a failure because I am only seeing how beautiful everyone looks. I’m not seeing when they are in tears or pain. Obviously, there is a time and a place for that as well and we can’t be crying when we do a fashion post or our makeup would be runny! Ha, ha. I love the outfit you have on today because as you said, it is yours. I love putting colors together that we think don’t go together…so the necklace with the shirt is perfect! Keep Stylin’! – Amy
    http://www.stylingrannymama.com

    1. Oh, what a wonderful thing to say Amy. There are so many that inspire me that it is so nice of you to say that I inspire you. I have found it much easier to write blog posts when I am just myself. For me fashion is much more than my outward appearance and it is closely related to my mood. It helps me convey a silent story of who I am without saying a word.

      Thanks again Amy!

      Janeane

  5. First, let’s talk about this outfit: cute, polished, and I want those booties. Second, let’s talk about you: these photos radiate confidence! But trust me, I’ve been there and sometimes feel down even when people are sending compliments. Hope the refresh button helps. Hugs, Janeane! ~Madeline

    1. Oh my goodness Madeline, this was wonderful to read. You are one of the first bloggers I ever started following years ago, so it means a lot to me that you commented and that you read my blog. And yes, those booties are my favorite, I am almost tempted to get another pair so when my current pair wear out, I have a back up.

      From what I gather, I think every blogger has been through rough situations that make us ask if it is worth it because here we are just trying to do something fun and helpful in our spare time. But I do think it is worth it because I have made some beautiful connections as a result of my blog.

      Yes, I am already plugging away and have a fresh new outlook on life and the blog. Everything in life has a lesson and I am taking lemons and making lemonade from them.

      I need to check out your new blog too, I hope the new house process is going well. As an interior designer, I love a good home redo!

      Thank you again for commenting!

      Janeane

  6. Do not rely on others for that feel good moment. Just do you and continue to rock your style. We are all blessed to be in this blogosphere. Enjoy your life!

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