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Have you ever felt invisible?
I know I have.
It’s that awful feeling over being not noticed and overlooked. It is also that moment when my feelings as a human being were put aside when two aggressive women I had put my trust in bullied me by saying that I was essentially not enough and I needed to change who I was. They called their words being assertive, all while my voice was squashed along with my confidence. I not only wanted to be visible physically, I wanted to be visible in my presence. Having your very character attacked is humiliating and I do not wish it upon anyone. Being blindsided by someone you have opened your heart to takes even the most assertive person off-guard.
One thing is for sure, I have come to realize that most others opinions really do not matter, especially these ladies I had called friends. I am now proud that I am quiet when it is appropriate, speak when it is, and that I choose my words carefully. I set my sights on what I want and work towards that goal in a positive and assertive manner. The fact that I have accepted this trait for what it is: wonderful, not some quality that should be tossed aside and be treated as a bad thing.
You might be asking yourself at this moment, what does this have to do with fashion Janeane? Well, for me getting ready in the morning is more about building myself up for the day ahead than what I am going to look like to others. Of course, I want people to think I look put together and confident, but to me it is the presence that I am creating as I assemble an outfit, fix my hair, and apply my makeup.
Personal style is your own way of branding yourself. For me, I do NOT want to blend in, I do NOT want to be invisible. Over this past year I have been curating a wardrobe for myself with all of this in mind. Selecting items that have my own signature so to speak on them was my main goal. With my self-named style of Vintage Boho, I look for unique items that fit into my newly found category.
This look is the very essence of what creates confidence for me. It encapsulates a vintage 70s vibe with a modern twist plus a bohemian chic flair. The brown, orange, and blue color palette along with a slight tribal feel gives me a funky casual look perfect for working in the office, meeting with clients, or a fun weekend date.
The first item that I started off with to create this look was the Tribal Style Blouse. The small organic chevron print on this collarless shirt has beautiful earthy colors throughout. If these are not iconic fall hues, I am not sure what is. I am always obsessed with three quarter tabbed sleeves because they give a shirt like this a laid back feel. To style it, I chose to half tuck it by pulling in the entire front into the jeans and allowing the back to flow free. I carefully bloused it to allow the transition to flow nicely. At first I was not sure if I wanted to expose my tummy like this, but the more I played with it, the more I liked the look.
Next up, the denim! Not just any ‘ol denim though. I first saw these True Stretch Jeans in the Ombre finish in a Catherines mailer and then on my friend Hailey of Discourse of a Divine Diva in her Art of the Mix: Peasant Top and Dip-Dyed Jean post. It was pretty much love at first sight. Last fall was the first time I started looking at denim with different treatments and washes. The more I diversified, the more I found I was happy I did not only have five of the same pair of dark wash skinny jeans like I did the season before. I always felt like I was wearing the same thing. Now that is not what I call preparing myself to be visible! These jeans make me feel confident because of their fit and their style. I have already worn these several times and love how surprisingly versatile they are. Since I am wearing these with a heel that comes up the ankle, I made a deep cuff with them to show off the fringed shoes.
To polish off this outfit, I added a bead necklace, stretch belt, orange quilted bag, fringe heels, and Metallic Mix Bangles. I love that these bracelets are large enough for my large wrists. All of these pieces are to purposely make myself be noticed, not in an arrogant or aggressive way, but in a fun and playful manner.
So here I stand, a visible, confident woman who is comfortable in her skin. My personal style has created an energy inside of me that has made me blossom into a more curious being. I strick up conversations with strangers, I am more communicative with my husband, and I am here talking about this very topic on my own blog. Allowing yourself to become visible comes from within yourself. You are totally worth it! Take it a step further and use that visibility to take a physical form and adorn yourself with pieces of fashion that create your own unique story.
Tribal Style Blouse: Catherines
True Stretch Jean in Ombre: Catherines
Metallic Mix Bangles: Catherines
Sylca Beaded Cirque Pendant Necklace: Anthropologie
Woven Cinch Belt: Target
Kactus Fringe Pump in Cognac: Payless
Orange Quilted Handbag: Chico’s
This is my last post as the August 2015 Style Ambassador for Catherines. I enjoyed tremendously shopping there and working with this fabulous brand. Here are the other three looks I created in case you missed any of them. Click on an image below to take you to that post.
Today’s Postivity Note
Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. -Tony Robbins
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Disclosure: This is a sponsored post. Any and all opinions are true and my own.