My Current Obsession: Tortoise Shell + Sharing from the Heart

My Current Obsession: Tortoise Shell

Happy Friday!

For a girl that loves color, this mostly brown medium is high on my radar right now.  From jewelry to home decor, tortoise shell and its mottled spots give a warmth like none other.  A few of these items are on my Christmas wish list.  And who can go wrong with a DVF purse in a tortoise shell pattern.  I really need to save up some money and get that.  I would wear it with everything!  And those tumblers are AH-MA-ZING!  I would feel so regal sipping my daily water intake in one of those.  Be sure to click on the pictures above if you are interested in anything to open up my Polyvore set.

On another note, I wanted to open up a little bit and ask a question to all those dog people.  This seems a little strange to me, but it has been really bothering me, especially with Christmas around the corner.  Fourteen years ago my husband and I adopted a six month old black lab from a shelter and she soon became an important part of our lives.  Maggie Mae was my daughter since I do not have any children and I love her beyond belief.  This past August, my sweet Maggie lost her life to a tumor and it has devastated me.  My question to you is, how long is the grieving time?  This blog was something I wanted to do when she was still with me and when she left my life, I finally put off my procrastination.  Don’t get me wrong, I am still happy in general.  I have a wonderful husband and family that I enjoy and appreciate.  This loss has affected me so much that I have no desire to decorate for the holidays.  And I am a designer by profession.  She was always a part of everything I did.  She poked her head in the boxes as I got out the decorations as if she were the official Christmas decor inspector.  She trampled over things that I would lay out on the ground as if she was waiting for me to yell “No, Stop!”.  She would lay under the tree and always mess up the skirt, all while looking at me with those big brown eyes full of mischief and love.

Me and Maggie Mae

Have any of you ever experienced the death of a dog that you love?  How long did it take you to stop crying and thinking about calling out their name for them to come to you?

So sorry to have this rather heavy subject in what I consider my positive little spot of the internet universe.  I just felt like I needed to get that off my chest.

And in regards to the tortoise shell, anybody else in love with it as much as me?  Do you own any pieces with this pattern?  Please tell!

Thanks for reading my blog and have a wonderful weekend!

Today’s Postivity Note

Enjoy the little things.

Be Blessed!

Janeane

I love to read your comments!

 

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5 comments

  1. I too am a serious dog lover. Whenever I have a dog,he or she quickly becomes like family for me. Grieving their loss is much like grieving the loss of a human family member. The first pet I lost was a poodle mix named PowderPuff who was my dog for 16 years, from the time I was one until I was 17 and a senior in high school. Her death devastated me. For over a year I would still see her out of the corner of my eye, or expect to see her when I would drive up to my home. I didn’t get another pet for a couple of years, then as a junior in college I got a Scottish terrier named Sadie. I had her through college, marriage, and the birth of my first son. When my son was 3 months old, Sadie found a hole in our fence, got out and was run over. I did not know what had happened to her for several days until a neighbor heard I was looking for her and he let me know he had found her and buried her (he did not know she was my dog). My husband will be the first to tell you that I would have succumbed to a deep depression if I had not had an infant to care for. I refused to get another pet for several years, until I had my 2nd son, and when they were 2 and 8 we got two rat terriers (a brother and sister). We had them for two years before they just disappeared one day. I grieved (though not as severely as I had for my previous two dogs, who I had had for much longer) for them, and also had to deal with the pain my sons felt as they experienced their first loss as well. That was 6 years ago, and we still talk about Buddy and Bailey. They both get attached as I do. My husband does not. Currently we have a Chesapeake Bay Retriever (my first large dog!) named Bo who thinks he is my baby…my 70 lb baby! He is 4 years old.
    When Bo was 1, a stray showed up at our house and didn’t leave. Since he got along with Bo we decided to keep him; we named him Chipper. I got him to the vet (albeit barely…he froze when I put a leash on him an had to struggle to lift him into the car and back out again). The vet said he was about 2 and had heart worms. We decided not to treat him since the treatment would be so severe. Unfortunately, over the course of 1 1/2 years, he became more aggressive (He had not been neutered, and from his fear of leashes, etc the vet feared he had been abused before he showed up at our house), especially as Bo got older and began to assert himself as well. They would fight over food every day, even though they got along very well at all times other than feeding time. Then he began to break through our electric fence, disregarding getting shocked, to chase and growl at neighborhood kids, etc. We did everything we could to get him to stop. It all culminated when we tried to get him on a leash again to take him to the vet, and he bared his teeth, growled, and tried to bite my husband. We called the vet, and the vet told us that we had done all we could, and that he was a danger to us and to others. It absolutely broke my heart, because he could be very loving. He would rub an lay on my legs like a cat. We had to put him down, and I absolutely cried for days, feeling like we had failed him.
    All I can say is that my dogs have given me much joy over the years (even Chipper, with all his emotional issues), and as painful as it is to lose one, I would NEVER give up that joy just to avoid the pain.
    I am sorry that this turned out to be such a long comment (It is probably longer than your post!) but I just wanted you to know that you are by no means alone in loving pets as much as people.

    1. Oh thank you for this comment. I don’t mind the length of it at all. It is so heart felt. My post would have been longer but I started crying when I was writing it. I sometimes feel like she is still with me and I want to hold on to her tight. My husband and I are torn as to if we should adopt another dog, but I don’t think it is time yet. When it is, I believe the right dog will be there. Thank you again for your comment and I can’t tell you how much your words have helped.

      Janeane

  2. I think I was meant to see you blog today… I linked from Still Being Molly for no other reason than I saw the link in your comment. I feel your pain! I recently lost my 17 year old Jack Russell Terrier on November 4th. He had a long and happy life and we lost him to old age; he just stopped ticking. I consider that a blessing. I think he held on as long as he did for us; he was so brave. I grieve every day. I miss him so much. I talk to him daily as if he were still with me. I believe that grief is a very individual thing and how long you feel it is a personal thing. I hope you start to feel better soon. Pray! Let God know your feelings and I truly believe he will help you heal. It’s a process but don’t feel pressured to be on any specific timeline. Do what comforts you…time does heal.

    1. Lisa-Thank you so much for your comment. So sorry for your loss too. I believe Maggie Mae was holding on for us too. She was a vibrant, full of energy dog for 14 years and her last week with us was very slow & I could tell she was in pain. Being an extremely stubborn dog, she pushed, but it was hard to see her not be able to be herself. I too consider it a blessing she no longer has to be in pain. I told her to run to Jesus when she passed and I know she is running in heaven. God has been comforting me and I thank you for your encouragement to pray.

      I wish you comfort as well during this time and I appreciate you sharing with me as I know you are going through the same thing.

      Best,
      Janeane

  3. I too am obsessed with tortoise shell, especially the statement necklaces and chain link bracelets that BaubleBar came out with over the summer. It’s another fiber that feels appropriate for every season. That DVF purse is positively perfect! It would definitely go with everything! Save those pennies!

    I’m so sorry to hear that you’re missing your Maggie Mae. Jazzy is very much our child, and I can’t bear to think of losing her. I’m sure it will wreak havoc on us when she goes. I’ve lost childhood pets, but I had moved out and gone to college and gotten married, so they were no longer a part of my everyday life. Their deaths were still so sad, but I had separated myself from them somewhat as I’d gotten older. My heart goes out to you, as the prospect alone of losing Jazzy is very hard to consider. All I can do is know that I have loved her as much as I could, and that she is a happy, safe, and well cared-for part of our family. She brings us great joy, and those memories will always bring us great joy. And I’m crying sitting here typing this, and she’s right here on the couch next to me! lol I’m not sure when the grieving period will end, but I would take some consolation in knowing that you included her in your life and made her happy. And she did the same thing for you. Just when we lose a dog, I think we miss the happiness they brought us. But the joy was still there when she was around, and it’ll still be there when you think of her. *hugs*

    ❤ Liz
    http://www.withwonderandwhimsy.com

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